The “Queen Of Pop” owned her crown in the 80s. There were the upbeat dance tracks, illustrated by the megahits Like A Virgin and Into The Groove, and there were the radio-friendly ballads (often associated with a film), such as Crazy For You, Live To Tell and The Look Of Love, all with universal themes to match. For the fourth US single from 1989’s Like A Prayer album, Madonna stepped away from that formula. Oh Father is baroque-style ballad of the type you might expect from an act such as Simon And Garfunkel (allegedly an influence on the song), with a lyric focused on Madonna’s experience losing her mother, and how that then shaped her relationship with her father, Tony.
“You can’t make me cry”, “You didn’t mean to be so cruel”, “You can’t hurt me now”: these lyrics all speak of something traumatic, but how much of this is literal, we may never know…
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Oh Father was Madonna’s most confessional song to date
Certainly, the recording of Oh Father’s parent album was characterised by challenge – Madonna’s marriage to actor Sean Penn was failing, and critics were less than kind to her Broadway debut in David Mamet’s Speed-The-Plow – and inevitably some of that atmosphere spilled over into her songwriting for Like A Prayer, not least on Oh Father.
Madonna’s childhood wasn’t easy – she resented her father’s remarriage and says her mother’s death has helped define her. Perhaps the final words should be Madonna’s: “Like all young girls, I was in love with my father,” she once said. Some of these themes would later be explored in the explosive 1991 documentary Truth Or Dare (aka In Bed With Madonna).